“know that there are many other ways to show love” (Edwidge Danitcat, "Everything Inside")

During this time that is heavily impacted by COVID-19, in-person conversations, warm embraces, pats on the back, soothing massages and kisses are off limits. Social distancing is required, as a result, feelings of isolation, anxiety and depression are increasingly becoming norms for many. Thus, considering the variety of ways to connect and express love to our friends and family outside of physical interaction is essential.

First, lets remember that healthy relationships begin with self-love. Start by attending to your personal needs to ensure that your cup is full and ready to share with others.

-Identify space and time that allows you to think and focus on you.

-Acknowledge your feelings by taking inventory. It is ok to check-in with yourself and ask, “how am I feeling?”

-Identify appropriate activities that you enjoy and ensure time to engage. For example, taking a healthy walk, completing a good read, watching your favorite movie, listening to a new playlist, taking a soothing bath/shower or cooking your favorite recipe.

Once you have honored your own needs, don’t forget to consider others. While providing physical touch to others is one love language that isn’t encouraged at this time, there remains additional love languages that we can utilize during this time of social distancing.

Words of Affirmation- During this unprecedented time, there is a lot of uncertainty. Sending positive vibes by picking up the phone, sending a text, instant message or email to share optimistic and inspiring words can make a difference. Don’t forget to reach out, check-in and send positive messages during this stressful time.

Quality Time- Social distancing doesn’t mean that we have to feel alone and isolated. Luckily access to technology makes it easier to stay connected and remind loved ones that you are there. Don’t forget that great conversations can be had via phone. Also, there are a variety of activities like dinner parties, brunches, happy hours, exercise sessions and even dance offs that can take place via virtual platforms (FaceTime, Zoom, etc.). Initiating virtual activities among family and friends can bring much needed joy.

Acts of Service- While physical interaction is currently limited, engaging in acts of service is possible. For those who are able to go to the store, check with a neighbor or loved one who can’t get out and offer to pick up necessities during your next run to the store. If you have a talent, share it. For example, if you’re the friend that is great with technology, offer assistance to any tech challenged friend or family member. It’s helpful to share your expertise. This could make someone’s day a little brighter with new information that you may offer.

Gifts- Many are currently experiencing tough economic times, so getting creative with gift giving is beneficial. If you bought and stored items in bulk, consider sharing with others that may need them. If you have the financial means, buying gift cards to support your local business and gifting to friends can be impactful in a great way. Also, sending a thoughtful delivery (flowers, meals, books, etc) can generate a smile for a loved one who is struggling during this tough time. In addition, share something that you are enjoying, such as a great music playlist, magazine subscription, great read or on-screen watch list. Sharing can be the medicine that may bring some cheer.

In the words of Stevie Wonder, “love’s in need of love. Don’t delay, send yours right away.” Cheers❤️

*The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is referenced.